Why do couples look alike

Why do couples look alike

by February 13, 2013 4 comments


Do you think that couples look alike after sometime of togetherness?

Or ever noticed why do couples look like each other after years of marriage?

Or perhaps, did you notice before that; friends who have known each other for years look alike?

Well, you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner – and that resemblance increases, the longer two lovebirds stay together, even with “BFF”. In addition to this; forget about opposites attracting, We like people who look like us, because they tend to have personalities similar to our own as evidence has also shown that men and women may be initially attracted to partners with similar personalities

Recently, a new study suggests, the longer we are with someone, the more similarities in appearance grow, and also the longer the couples had been together, the greater the perceived similarities. Out of curiosity, I just want to ask, am pretty sure you will have noticed this before but the question is, why do people who spend a lot of time together start to look like each other? And why do couples who spend a lot of time together look alike?

There are lots of theories that attempted to explain this phenomenon, for example some people have suggested that people who spend a lot of time together follow the same diet and get exposed to the same environmental factors and thus they end up looking alike, some researchers speculate that the sharing of experiences might affect how couples look, hereby making them look alike.


I went researching myself and I found this particular finding, very interesting. A psychologist from University of Michigan – Robert Zajonc, conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity. Zajonc suggested that older couples looked more alike because people in close contact mimic each other’s facial expressions. The couples that had been together the longest were judged to have more similar personalities. The psychologist concluded that, “possessing personality traits that are attractive may be causal in making a face attractive.” In other words, if your partner has a good sense of humour and laughs a lot, he or she will probably develop laugh lines around their mouth — and so will you.

I kept on my research, and while digging in this subject matter, I found something that really appealed a lot to me and that provided me with a good answer for the “Why do couples look alike” question in retrospect

Emotions change facial features

The emotions you experience everyday can change your facial features over time. I am sure that you have noticed that people who stay depressed for long periods of time start to look differently.

The same happens for people who experience any prolonged period that is charged with a certain emotion like stress anxiety, sadness or even happiness.

Now back to couples, when they spend a lot of time together they develop empathy and start to experience the same emotions together (most of the time). Since these emotions affect their face features they start to look alike after years of being together.

It turns out we may even be hard-wired to fall in love with people sporting the same emotional/ face features that is similar to our own in some ways. Couples may start to look like each other because in some ways they already are like each other

Moral Lesson

Don’t let life change your face features

Do you know what does this mean?
These emotional changes that affect couples can also affect you and result in changing your facial features!! Don’t you meet people who look angry even if they are feeling normal? Those people felt angry for prolonged periods of time and that’s why their faces changed to reflect this anger!!

This means that when you feel bad, sad, down or experience any bad emotion you are actually changing your facial features by a tiny bit. As these tiny bits come together they start to change your looks!!

Don’t let life change your face features or leave its marks on your face. I know that you might not be able to control everything in your life and that there are problems that you can’t prevent but still you can control your reactions to these problems.

  • Refuse to feel bad when something bad happens to you
  • Refuse to become mad when someone tries to make you angry
  • Refuse to feel down when you fail, lose hope or lose something that you wanted
  • Live your life feeling proud and confident and soon these emotions will get reflected on your face.

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  1. vivian
    #1 vivian 14 February, 2013, 05:30

    A very interesting and stimulating piece……so truely”emotions change facial looks”…..that ’bout caps it all……

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  2. kikelomo
    #2 kikelomo 14 February, 2013, 19:14

    Wow, intruguing… Very fabulous. This article provides d perfect answer to my curiousity. I’d always wondered y daddy G.O adeboye look alike, this explains it all and I think I know better. Thumbs up friend for blessing me with this interesting article.

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  3. keykerr
    #3 keykerr 14 February, 2013, 19:20

    Wow, intruguing… Very fabulous. This article provides d perfect answer to my curiousity. I’d always wondered y daddy G.O adeboye and his wife look so much alike, this explains it all and I think I know better. Thumbs up friend for blessing me with this interesting article.

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